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Use extreme caution when dealing with a narcissistic ex

| Dec 11, 2020 | Divorce |

Most people think of divorce as a clean break from their ex. When you’re divorcing a narcissistic individual, you might find that the end of the marriage is a complex undertaking. The narcissistic individual is going to have to “win” every aspect of the divorce, so you can’t expect that this is going to be an easy battle.

It’s imperative for a person who’s divorcing a narcissist to be prepared for what’s likely to come. Talking to your attorney about the situation can also be beneficial, so they understand what they’re facing.

Narcissists need to feel in control

Your ex is going to do whatever it takes to feel as though they’re controlling the situation. This means they might lie or try to fight for even inconsequential points in the divorce. They may also say and do things just to try to get a reaction out of you. It might be best for you to have all communication go through your attorney, so your ex doesn’t see your reactions to any of it.

Narcissists don’t care who they hurt

One thing that you have to be careful about in your divorce is how your ex is impacting your children. A narcissist doesn’t feel emotional losses, so they might not care how their tactics are harming the children. Talk to your kids often to determine whether they’re facing any impacts from what your ex is doing.

Ultimately, you’re going to have to prepare yourself for litigation in the divorce. The chance of you being able to work things out through mediation are slim to none. Work closely with your attorney to determine what options you have and how you should proceed with the legal aspects of the divorce.